Maybe you're the problem...

I have a feeling we’re not so different, you and I…

For years I didn’t want to take responsibility for my own actions.

And I was quick to blame any and everything but myself for things going wrong.

I remember a time while working a previous job when I was sent to a new location to train the bar staff.

After arriving a day early, I decided to tour the location and have a quick beer at the bar.

Within minutes, my friend (who was also there training) began lining up shots in front of me on the bar top…

(It was no secret that I would hammer those shots back without question.)

And throughout the next couple of hours, what was supposed to be one beer, turned into an all-you-can-drink contest and I seemed to be the only competitor.

My quiet, friendly demeanor quickly spiraled into a hellstorm of ass-holery…

Being rude, obnoxious, and everything else you might imagine from a drunken fool.

Shortly thereafter I was asked to leave and had my training responsibilities stripped from me… Surprise, surprise…

But the worst part of it all?

None of it was my fault…

Because how could it be?!

My friend knew my drunk alter ego well and still kept serving me.

So obviously he was the one to blame…

I held that grudge against him for longer than I would like to admit which was completely unfair.

Because looking back, it’s clear what a crock of shit that was.

I could have said no, or left, or taken a break, or 1,000 other things but I didn’t.

Instead, I just kept drinking and made an ass of myself.

But the decision was always mine.

Which means the consequences were as well.

Yet I acted like I was just yet another victim dealing with an unfair world.

In reality, everything I used to blame on this unfair world was within my control.

And I believe many of you are doing the same thing.

Blaming other people, your boss, your parents, etc. for all the shit that’s gone wrong in your life.

But at some point (hopefully) you’ll realize that they’re not the reason for your problems.

Because you have the control to:

• Eat healthier.

• Find a better job.

• Start working out.

• Put down the alcohol.

• Distance yourself from toxic people.

You just have to be willing to throw away your victim card and take responsibility for your actions.

From here on out, I hope you recognize that you’ve always had control.

You can wake up blaming the world and feeling sorry for yourself.

Or you can take responsibility and start building a life you’re proud to call your own.

I made my choice…

Maybe it’s time to make yours.

“Stop blaming everyone else for the problem and
start seeing the solution is in yourself."

But eh, I’m just sharing what helped me and hoping it can help you too.

Until next week.

Your friend,

Michael “Victim No More” Mitchell